"We used to be best friends and now we hardly speak." "It's like we're just roommates living parallel lives." "I feel more alone now than when I was single." "We are so disconnected. He/she just doesn't get me anymore." I hear these things often when I work with couples who come to see me. There are tears, hurt feelings, sadness, and sometimes even hopelessness when we talk about the current state of their relationship. Sadly, some couples come to counseling when it's way too

In my video above, I'll tell you about the most important connection for your family as well as the three "F's" that can be simple ways to connect. If you are struggling with disconnection and wish you and your partner would reconnect, give me a call (720-381-2755) or send me an email (tradewindstherapy at gmail dot com) to set up your appointment today. #married #happy #family #couple #partner #couples #partners #healthy #marriage #life #love #parents #parenting #parenthood

I often work with people who do not know how to do self-care or what it even is. The simplest definition of self-care is caring for yourself. I know… that’s a no-brainer. But if you ask individual people how they do their own self-care, you’ll get a ton of different answers. Some people won’t know what you’re talking about and you’ll probably get a long, thoughtful pause followed by an “I don’t know” with a shoulder shrug. Others will give you a variety of answers like runnin

Becoming a mom has been one of the hardest roles of my life - even more difficult than being a business owner, a wife, a friend, a sister, or a daughter. It takes all of my physical, mental, and emotional strength some days. Being a mom often robs me of the energy I want to have for other things. Don't get me wrong... most days are wonderful and a huge blessing. I can't believe how lucky I am to have a person as sweet as my little baby who is just beginning to learn how to sa

What couples do you know in real life, on TV, in movies, or in media that have happy, healthy relationships? It's difficult to think of very many - especially in the media. With so many dysfunctional couples portrayed out there, how are we supposed to create our own relationships from unhealthy models and expect positive results? If you are struggling with an obstacle in your relationship and are having a hard time regaining the happiness you once had, give me a call (720-381

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably gotten to the point of being in “the comfort zone”. This is where you and your partner have fallen into a routine of whatever is easiest, quickest, and (let’s face it) boring. Many times, it looks like this: go to work, come home, have dinner, watch TV, go to bed, repeat. If you have kids, there are a few more steps, but usually the pattern is pretty similar. The comfort zone is nice at times. There are few expectati

In my last post, I talked about how relationships are like cars in that both need proper maintenance to keep in top shape. Today, I want to give you a handy tool that I think makes a huge difference in maintaining a good relationship. It’s no secret that I love Dr. John Gottman’s work. I reference his books and ideas quite often. This tool is one of his gems I find myself talking to couples about frequently. In his years of studying many different couples, he has found that t

Here we are in mid-February. As I write this post, it is currently snowing outside and 27°F. Colorado weather is pretty crazy. Just two days ago, it was beautiful, sunny, and I went (jacketless!) to the park with my seven-month-old so he could try out a swing for the first time (he loved it, by the way). Now, it’s cold, snowing, and overcast. Days like today make me long for the summertime with abundant sunshine, longer daylight hours, and overall happiness. I, like numerous

‘Tis the season for engagement Fa la la la la, la la la la! Boutonnieres and flower arrangements Fa la la la la, la la la la! Rented tuxes, bridesmaids dresses Fa la la, la la la, la la la! Time to discuss marital stresses Fa la la la la, la la la la! Alright, I’m in a silly mood today, thus my little song for you about premarital counseling. On a more serious note, did you know in a study about marital satisfaction, the couples who completed some sort of marriage preparation

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? If so, do you keep them? According to a study done in 2014 by the University of Scranton*, only about 8% of Americans were successful in accomplishing their resolutions last year. Many people resolve to do things better when the new year rolls around, but quickly abandon their ideas and fall into the same comfortable patterns they have created. Why do so many resolutions fail? There are multiple reasons, but a main one is that there is ofte