It’s no secret that having a baby changes, well, everything. You have many more responsibilities and time gets away from you much easier. With a child taking up most of that time, you have less and less time for your partner. That inevitably means less time for sex. If this sounds familiar, I have a few suggestions below that might help you find that spark again: Take advantage of free moments Now that you have a little one who needs you most of the day and even at night, you

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With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I am dedicating this blog post to couples looking for different ways to show gratitude for their partners. This post also serves as a reminder that no matter how you do it, showing appreciation for your partner is a necessary part of keeping your relationship healthy. Without regular displays of gratitude, your "love bank" does not gain any deposits (let alone interest!). Continuing to only take withdrawals from this bank will inevita

Picture this: a frazzled mom picks up her toddler and five-year-old from daycare after a long day at work. On the way home, the five-year-old begins to scream about being hungry and wanting dinner NOW! The toddler starts to cry shortly after and joins in about being hungry. With 20 minutes still left in the ride home, the mom reaches her breaking point and screams back, "Fine! We're going to McDonald's!" and pulls into the nearest drive-through to get a couple of Happy Meals,

There are tons of books, resources, classes, friends, family, and internet searching that my husband and I turned to when we knew we were expecting our first child. We prepared ourselves by taking childbirth and breastfeeding classes, getting things together for his room, buying clothes, diapers, wipes, and dreaming about what was to come. I think these things only gave us a small glimpse into what parenthood would really be like. Both of us forgot nearly everything from the

After taking a short break from blogging for two months, I'm excited to be back! I have decided to focus my practice more specifically to address parents of younger children. This means my blog posts will talk about children, parenting, you and your significant other, and strategies on how to improve these relationships. From here on, you can look forward to my blog posts the 1st and 3rd Mondays of each month. Today, I'll be addressing whether you and your partner are in a "m

When is the last time you went on a date? A real date? Received flowers or gave a small token of your love to your partner? Dressed up and went to a fancy dinner with a date? Felt like you were the only person in the world your date wanted to spend time with that evening? Let me rephrase: when is the last time you and your spouse went on a date? If you are married, perhaps it's been a long time since you've dated. I'm here to tell you DATING DOES NOT HAVE TO DIE AFTER MARRIAG

For many parents, their relationship as a couple came before their children did. Therefore, it makes sense to nurture that initial connection both before and after adding more members to the family tree. Parenting can be a tricky endeavor, but mixing two peoples' beliefs, parenting styles, families of origin, family histories, individual struggles, and more can be a disastrous combination for family functioning if not done so carefully and with forethought. Dr. John Gottman (

To continue the trend of my blog posts recently, I figured I'd address something that comes up quite frequently with parents I've worked with in therapy. Many parents come into therapy sessions at the end of their rope. They are tired, frustrated, and don't know what to do after a full day's work, running errands, doing household chores, scraping together something for dinner, helping with homework, taking the kids to and from practices, etc. This list could go on forever. As

We have come to the last week of my five-week blog series for couples. This last installment is regarding housework and chores - an area few couples agree on and tensions can flare. How often has putting together a "honey-do" list actually worked out? Are you and your partner always squabbling about whose turn it is to clean the dishes? Pick up the clutter in the living room? Scrub the toilet? Change the next diaper? Are you satisfied with how work gets done around your home